Of Morality & Youth

Maybe, it has something to do with age. Manila Bulletin recently published the decline of moral standard among the youth of today. I am not surprised as I use to hear my grandparents, aunts and uncles shake their head and say, "The youth today have changed..." and how a single glance on them carried with it a litany of things to do and not to do... that was about a decade or two ago.

In forums, it is normal to discuss about SEB, FuBu, and other things I used to suspect only bar girls would talk about (in a day's work). The farthest I've been exposed to using in an ordinary chat is Fubar, 'cause we once hosted a night (or a couple) of it at Club Dredd (Fubar, BTW, meant fucked-up beyond any recognition, or something as close).

Maybe, it has something to do with the shift of lifestyle, from ordinary office hours, to a 24-hour work environment brought about by call centers. Maybe, it is the coffee shops that proliferated in the metro nowadays...

Take this sampling from a recent chat with a stranger, a Pinoy...

wan_derer_ph : hello po!
wan_derer_ph : asl?
me: ha? ikaw nagpa-add
wan: 27m
wan: heheh
wan: kau po?
me: as in? i tot u were an applicant
wan: heheh.. applicant of?
wan: for what madam?
wan: ... nope, i got ur id from salbahe...
me: ah, ic, sino ikaw dun? hehe
wan: i just read ur post ...
wan: im not a member, just reading po kaya ko po nakita
me: ok, am old, am married, in pluto, lol
wan: did i mention about sex? hehe
me: i feel i am 104, obviously, if u can't c my dsplay pic, am a female, location is Pilipinas
wan: heheh... 104? hmmmm... ung seryoso po...
wan: btw, im melvin, 30yo
me: naku, if u feel that old, d pa ba seryoso yon?
...
wan: i dont chat at home... browsing lng ... hahahah
me: ah, hehe, i understand ... selosa ba?
wan: yup...
wan: heheh... natural ba sa babae un?
me: hehe... ende. ako, hindi ako selosa
wan: ganun b? hehehe
wan: nakita nya kasi minsan may kachat akong chicks.. hehehe
mte: nakow, e baka naman u were flirting, iho?
wan: hahah.... partly yes.... heheh... friendly flirt... hehe.. meron ba nun?
me: di ko alam... : ako kasi, either it is or it is not
wan: ano po?
me: nung pakasalan ko kasi mr ko, I made sure ako lang mamahalin nya... so, wala akong pinagseselosan
wan: ganun ba? ok po
me: me certain guys kasi na polyganous talaga, mga 90% of men
wan: sabagay sa ganda nyong yan eh di na kayo ipagpapalit... hahaha
wan: 50% lang po ang womanizer..
me: di ako maganda, sabi ko, siguro ano, maganda mood ng camera nung kuhanan ko pix ko
wan: hmmmm... : di naman po siguro magkakamali ung cam... unless meron syang auto-photoshop... nyahaha
me: parang ano din yan e, yong salamin na bolero, di ba meron nun?
wan: ganun ba un?
me: feeling ko ganun e... o kaya, maganda lang gising ko
wan: hmmmmm ... naman...nakikita mo naman yan eh... kita mo nga di na nambababae mr mo
wan: nung nagpost kau, inopen ko ung profile nyo
me: ah, OK
wan: im searching for a gal to flirt with kasi kaya lang wrong number pala na-dial ko... hahaha
me: pero am good in giving tips... madami ka rin matututunan s'kin,
wan: ah ok....gaya po ng ano?
me: ask
wan: di ko pa kasi natry nag-extramarital love affair... hehehe
me: plan mo?
wan: heheh... if may opportunity.... hahaha
me: mind if I ask why gusto mo ng xtramarrital affair?
wan: siguro adventure lang po...havent done it before kasi eh... heheh... and i only experiencehaving sex with my wife i was too concentrated with my studies kasi noon
me: ok lang naman na loyal ka e
wan: how about kung tumikim naman ng iba?
wan_derer_ph (1/21/2008 6:04:00 PM): hahah
me: okey din lang mag flirt... : siguro, kahit cyber affair...
wan: havent tasted ibang putahe pa kasi eh
me: pero kung sa opinion ko lang, hanggang dun lang
wan: ganun? pero gusto ko po ung actual eh... ok lng ba ung cyber affair?... sex on cam?
me: oo kasi, lalake ka
wan: mga ganun? hirap naman maghanap... mas gusto ko kasi actual kasi eh... di ko feel ung sa net lang. may kilala po ba kayo na pwede?
me: dami mga girlie bars jan...eto tip: open minded ba misis mo?
wan: bakit po? di nga eh, selosa nga eh
me: u try role-playing na lang
wan: bakit po ba? anong role-playing?
me: like, kunyari pretend na text mates kayo, then, you meet somewhere, like a bar or something. then, saka kayo punta sa isang resort
wan: ganun
me: gusto mo lang ba adventure? i dont really advise it e
me: i can only advise alternatives
wan: ano naman po?
me: 1st, yon nga role playing, 2nd, cyber affair lang
wan_derer_ph (1/21/2008 6:12:13 PM): with my wife?
me: sa first, oo, with ur wife, sa 2nd, with any woman who wants to
wan: ah ok...
me: madami sa mga chat rooms
wan: i love my wife po but im not perfect. im just human
me: well, mag flirt ka na lang ng walang humpay...
wan: ok lng sayo kahit i ask for actual and not just cyber?
me: actual na tawa?
wan: nope. SEB
me: what's SEB?
wan: sex eyeball po
me: nye, kala ko sa mga call center peeps lang yon
wan: y naman? adventure lang naman
me: sige bata, ingat sa pagtawid

Online Dating

Like I am an expert on this topic. I can't be and never will. But it happens that nowadays online relationship has become a necessity for adult men and women as our economic policy-makers have reduced all relationships into some forms of economic reasons... which means all adults must transform a majority of their time as productive...Yay!

Okay, here's a very funny overview and an advice on online dating from David Wygant. Pardon me if I find it funny. Must be the east-west divide (no, I don't mean terrorism issues, lol!. I am not in the business of arms manufacturing, dealing or marketing! Am not even from the U.S. Haha!)

Why am I on this stuff? We have plans to launch an online dating site and basically, it is still on its development stage. And I need to know a few things about online dating and online affairs and cultivating online relationships...

But what's with online dating?

It seemed at first glance online dating and online affair was the evolution of SOP (sex on the phone). As for sex, Live Science says sex is something that's normally craved for...so much like violence and food.

But going farther, apart from sex, appreciation and expression are an intrinsic factors that online relationships (whether it be with real-life friends and family members to total strangers) thrive: in forums, chatrooms, blogs, elsewhere. An example is for Filipinos whose many families and friends are separated due to economic reasons translated remittances. Through networking sites, they can be updated about most screened and intentionally posted events, photos, whatever.

But for many Westerners, i.e., Caucasians, I have observed that many adult males and females are actually having an advantage and want to gain the most out of it. Unfortunately, though, as they discover and begin to appreciate Asian or Oriental values (family-centeredness, loyalty, and valueing character above material things), these are slowly melted and mixed with Western individualism, freedom and openness.

While it is safe to say that pornography, for instance, exists in most parts of the world since the naked creation, it has pushed a lot of boundaries as the body and its pleasures are glorified in the net.

What we miss as we are made to believe about the hype of the flesh are the more pleasant and acceptable ways on which we could interact and become intimate with other people as friends or relatives (clan or family members). As I tried to point out earlier, as an Asian, married and with children, I was able to develop friendship with Caucasian guys (teen and adults) who sought online means to connect and express, and not to see or show some of their body parts. In the long run, these are more pleasant, less stressful, and can be cultivated like a neighborhood friendship...